So, how is your New Year’s resolution going? Are your abs ripped, your hair glossy and your skin glowing just like the magazine promised when you began their ‘14 Day Kick-Start-Your-New-Year Plan’? No? All you had to do was reduce your daily calorie intake to the requirements of 6-year-old child, drink 5 buckets of water a day, run 100km a week and abstain from drinking alcohol for eternity! Oh well, welcome to the world of being normal!
If your New Year’s resolution isn’t going quite as well as you hoped, maybe this will help. A better understanding of how your willpower works might just be the answer to put you on the right track again.
Contrary to popular belief, it takes more than writing your goals down, getting your friends to pat you on the back and dangling a carrot on a stick to get you where you want to be. Before you reach your exercise goal, or whatever goal you’re aiming for, you need to exercise your willpower muscle. Yes, apparently you can exercise your willpower like a muscle and from personal experience, I’m inclined to agree.
According to the psychologist Roy Baumeister, we normal folk don’t have an infinite resource of willpower. It gets used up on other things as we go about our day. Psychologists call this ‘using up’ of willpower, ‘ego depletion’. Following further tests carried out by Baumeister and other psychologists, it has been found that there are various steps which can be taken to help you build up the strength of your willpower. So below is my list of the best ways to strengthen it.
Resisting things you want uses up willpower (this was one of Baumeister’s main findings). If you remove them completely, you won’t have to resist them! If you’re trying to pay off debts, leave your credit card and home and take a fixed sum of cash out with you so you can’t overspend. Don’t keep unhealthy treats in your home! If you’re not using up willpower resisting these things, you’ll have more willpower for all the other things you want to do.
“But I can’t stop thinking about chocolate and now there’s none in the house – this is agony – I want it even more now!” Mindfulness is the art of focussing your attention on there here and now and helps you to disconnect from your thoughts. It’s said that just 10 minutes of mindfulness practice a day helps you to train your brain to stay focussed. A mindfulness technique is to sit on a hard-back chair, with your feet on the flat floor and your hands on your lap. Start by focussing on your breath moving in and out of your nose, and your belly rising and falling. Next, starting with your feet and working up to your head, focus on where you feel pressure. When you get to the top of your head, reverse the process back to your feet. This is called a body scan. Every time you feel temptation, perform a brief body scan.
Make time for happiness
It has also been found that improved mood helps raise willpower (it’s not rocket science really). Make time in your day for things that lift your spirits. Make a play list for your iPod of songs for these moments. Carry a small album with photos of happy times with friends and family to look at when you need a boost. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it makes you smile. My friend made me a mix tape when I was feeling down, it began with Dolly Parton’s 9 to 5 (my guilty pleasure): it never failed to make me smile!
Regulate your blood sugar
Low blood sugar also depletes your willpower. Try looking up some low GI recipes to keep your blood sugar regulated throughout the day or drink a glass of juice a short time before you take part in an activity the requires extra willpower.
Prioritise your least favourite task first
Or in the words of Brian Tracy, “If you have to eat two frogs, eat the ugliest one first.” Doing something you don’t like or something you find boring is a guaranteed way to zap your willpower so do it first. Preferably in the morning when our reserves of willpower are higher. This is when I prioritise exercise because I know after a long day at work, I’m just not going to be in the mood for the treadmill.
Perform unrelated habits
Get into the habit of getting into habits. It sounds strange but if you get into the habit of doing simple, unrelated tasks, it becomes easier to make other things a habit. Try it and see. For me, I’m not good at drinking as much water as I should. It’s not too much of a challenge to keep a bottle of water on my desk and make sure it’s all gone by the end of the day. So that’s the habit I’m practicing at the moment.
Don’t beat yourself up about falling off the wagon. Everyone does it at some point. Congratulate yourself on being normal and carry on as you were before. Feeling guilty lowers your mood which will also deplete your willpower
You’ve probably got the gist of this now! Performing stressful tasks requires willpower so as your stress levels rise, your willpower lowers. Practice mindfulness, go for a walk in your lunch break or listen to calming music. Do whatever suits you!
Be in-tune with your motivational rhythm
We all have our own motivational rhythm with its peaks and troughs. Notice when your naturally more motivated and make use of these peak times to get things done. For me, and like most of us, it’s first thing in the morning when reserves of willpower are high.
Trust the process
Trust that you will gain more willpower the more you use it. Remember this when you find yourself flagging. Keep a journal to talk about whatever it is that your starting. Record how motivated you feel before you perform the task and how you feel afterwards. Give your motivation a level out of 10. At the end of the week, see how much your willpower improves. Just keep going!
What’s your carrot?
Oh okay, maybe carrots are helpful! What are you doing it all for? Keep a clear image of the outcome in your mind. If you can find a likeness of what you want in a real picture then use that. For me, I’m saving to go and see my sister and her family in New Zealand but I love to shop! I have a picture of my niece on my desk and every time I’m tempted to do a bit of internet shopping, I look at her and am reminded that I don’t need a new pair of shoes that badly!